Hi guys, dahil malapit na ang valentines day na ginawa ng buong mundo as official na araw ng mga puso, ang i ta tackle ko na topic ay related sa love and relationship.Debby Hudson on Unsplash
Maraming tao ang magiging in a relationship sa dadating na valentines, puno na naman malamang ang restaurant at waiting na naman sa mga motel. Taon taon naman ganito except lang yata noong pandemic.
If in a relationship ka, malamang may date ka or may pa sabog ka ngayong valentines para sa kapartner mo,( hindi yung pasabog na ini isip mo) at kung single ka naman, its either naghahanap ka ng makaka date or wala ka lang paki alam dahil para sayo mas gusto maging single.
Yes guys may mga tao na walang paki alam sa mga ganitong okasyon dahil para sa kanila masaya maging single.
Kaya ang Topic ko for this post ay " Mas masaya ba ang Single life or in a Relationship"
Kung hindi ka pa nagiging in a realtionship sa buhay mo, malamang wala kang ma sha share sa topic na ito dahil wala kang pag kukumparahan ng experience mo. same din sa mga tao na halos hindi nababakante, na always in a relationship ang status, yung tipong kaka break lang kahapon ng umaga, mamayang gabi may bago ng ka relasyon na para bang nag palit lang ng damit. Ito yung mga tao na laging may reserba. mga taong laging handa! parang Bosyscout lang.
Hindi na natin pag uusapan kung dapat ba tayong na in a relationship ang tao or hinde, na dapat ba ang tao ay mabuhay na may ka partner dahil sure ako na hindi lahat ng tao ay makaka experience maging in a relationship, Posibleng maka experience sila na may mga crush sila o gusto nilang tao pero hindi sila nag karoon ng chance na ma experience ang love life.
Hindi din natin pag uusapan yung mga tao na single kahit gusto nilang maging in a relationship kase hindi naman sila masaya na single, nag kataon lang na single sila.
So focus lang tayo sa topic na mas masaya ba ang single na life kesa in a relationship.
Alamin muna natin kung ano yung mga reasons ng tao bakit ayaw nila ng relationship.
Hadlang sa Freedom
Tingin nila ang pagiging in a relationship ay nakaka hadlang sa freedom ng isang tao, pag kasi in a relationship kana, hindi lang sayo ang oras mo, hindi na pwedeng na mag punta ka kung saan saan na hindi ka nag papa alam sa partner mo kasi malaking away yun. kahit mayplano kapang gawin sa specific na araw kasama ang mga barkada mo, kahit na schedule mo pa yan bago ka maging in a relationship, kung ang araw na yun ay birthday ng partner mo, kailangan mong i move ang schedule mo para i celebrate ang birthday ng partner mo.
So may mga advance kang plano sa buhay like travel, before ka mag relayon, i check mo muna mga special na occasions na kailangan mong i celebrate with your new found partner.
May mga tao naman na ayaw ng in a relationship dahil makati sila, ayaw nila na isa lang ang kapartner, gusto yata gabi gabi iba ang kahalikan. Totoong may mga taong ganito at totoong ito ang reson nila, bat nga naman daw sila mag uulam ng same ulam everyday kung pwede namang iba iba kada araw.
Ayaw ng obligasyon at responsibilities, may mga tao naman na ayaw ng relationship dahil ayaw nila ng obligasyon na naka dikit sa relationship. Ayaw nila nung mag iisip pa sila ng regalo sa partner nila sa tuwing may okasyon, ayaw nila na kailangan nilang samahan ang partner nila pag may family occassion ito na pupuntahan, at kung sakali at malamang ay mauuwi ang relasyon sa pagbuo ng family, ayaw nila ng responsobilidad.
Sagabal sa Goal, may mga tao na naka focus sa personalgoals nila at masyado silang nakatali dito, may mga tao na ang tingin nila sa relationship ay barrier rather than inspiration para mas ganahan sila sa pag achieve ng goals nila sa buhay.
Fear or Trauma - may mga tao na sobrang nasaktan sa relationship na hindi na nila gustong maging in a relationship ulit. para sa kanila, walang mabuting idudulot ang relationship sa buhay at mas masaya sila na single na lang.
Ngayon naman ay alamin natin yung mga reasons ng mga tao bat gusto nila na in a relationship sila
Masaya ang feeling ng may nagmamahal sayo - yes totoo naman, masaya ang feeling na may nag aalala sayo, nag cacare, at nag aasikaso sayo. sa mga naka experience na ng love, alam nyo naman siguro yung kilig na nararamdaman natin sa tuwing kasama natin ang partner natin.
Support - Kapag in a relationship ka, may kakampi ka sa buhay, may mag sasabi sayo na kaya mo yan, or may momotivate sayo para kayanin mo ang mga bagay bagay.
Ang totoo sobrang daming mailalagay na reason kung bat masaya maging in a relationship pero hindi ko na isusulat lahat dahil ang bottom line lang naman nun ay happiness.
YEs... alam naman natin na hindi lahat ng in a relationship masaya lalo na at kung napunta ka sa maling tao, pero hindi yung pagiging inn love ang may fault doon kung hindi yung choices mo sa buhay, mali ka ng napili kaya ka naging malungkot. ikaw ang nag palungkot sa sarili mo at hindi yung idea ng love at relationship.
At syempre alam ko din naman kahit di aminin ng madami (kasi madami na din umamin sa akin) na malungkot ang maging single, sa una masaya yan kapag medyo bata kapa, maganda pa physique mo at pwede ka pang pa fling fling, pero pag tumanda kana at dina marketable ang beauty mo, saka mo lang talaga mararamdaman ang feeling ng pagiging single.
Dinanas ko sa buhay ang maging single na hindi nakikipag fling, as in single lang ng mahabang panahon din, dinanas ko din ang single na walang commitment at pa fling fling lang so hindi pa din ako in a relationship sa mga panahon na yun.
Dinanas ko na din ang in a relationship na walang love, yung in a relationship ka pero dahil lang ayaw mong maging single at syempre dinanas ko din ang in a relationship sa taong gusto ko at tama para sa akin.
Dumanas na din ako ng mga heartaches na enough para umayaw ako sa relationship, kaya nga sabi ko kanina na experience ko na ang single na hindi nakikipag fling, as in single talaga.
Base sa observation ko, at sa mga nadinig kona din na kwento kwento sa buhay, ang tao nature nya na gusto nya maka receive ng love. Kaya nga minsan naiintindihan ko yung mga single na may alagang mga pets at mahal na mahal nila yung pets nila kasi na rereturn nung pets nila yung love na binibigay nila at the same time alam nila na hindi sila iiwanan nito.
Para sa akin, pwede naman tayong maging masaya as a single person pero masasabi ko na mas masaya talaga ang in a relationship as long as tama ang napili mong kapartner sa buhay.
Oo may mga problems, minsan may tampuhan pero maliit na factor lang ito kumpara sa joy na maibibigayng tamang kapartner sa buhay natin.
Sa huli, masasabi ko na masaya maging in a relationship. Nabibigyan nito ng meaning ang buhay mo, at binibigyan ka nito ng reason na i endure anghirap ng buhay sa mundo at mag look forward sa bagong araw.
Kayo? Single ba kayo or in a relationship? Saan kayo naging mas masaya? Walang maling sagot kaya drop your comments sa comment section.
Valentine's Day is just around the corner, predominantly celebrated by couples, but I've heard that some people celebrate it with their pets. They argue that Valentine's is about love in general, sharing love not only with your partner but with everyone you care about. Therefore, the topic I'll be discussing is related to love and relationships.
Many people will be in a relationship on the upcoming Valentine's Day, and restaurants and motels will likely be full. It's a yearly occurrence, except perhaps during the pandemic.
If you're in a relationship, you probably have plans or surprises for your partner on Valentine's. And if you're single, you're either looking for a date or simply don't care because you prefer being single.
Yes, there are people who don't care about these occasions because, for them, being single is enjoyable.
So, the topic for this post is, "Which is Happier: Single Life or In a Relationship?"
If you haven't been in a relationship in your life, you probably won't have much to share on this topic due to a lack of personal experience. The same goes for those who are rarely single, always in a relationship, seemingly changing partners as easily as one changes clothes. These are the people who always have a backup plan, always ready, like Boy Scouts.
We won't discuss whether people should be in a relationship or not, whether everyone should have a partner, as not everyone gets to experience being in a relationship. Some may have crushes or people they like, but they never get the chance to experience a love life.
Let's also not talk about people who are single even if they want to be in a relationship because they are not happy being single. It just happens that they are single.
So, let's focus on the topic of whether the single life is happier than being in a relationship.
Let's first explore the reasons people don't want a relationship:
1. **Freedom Hindrance:** Some see being in a relationship as a hindrance to personal freedom. When you're in a relationship, your time is not just yours, and you can't go wherever you want without informing your partner. Even if you had plans with friends before being in a relationship, if it's your partner's birthday, you have to reschedule.
2. **Itchy Lifestyle:** Some people avoid relationships because they are flirtatious and prefer not to be tied to one partner. They want variety and excitement, not the same routine every day.
3. **Avoidance of Obligations:** Some dislike relationships because of the obligations attached. They don't want to think about gifts for their partners or attend family events. If the relationship leads to starting a family, they want no part in the responsibilities.
4. **Goal Interruption:** Some people focus intensely on personal goals and feel that relationships act as barriers rather than inspirations to achieve those goals.
5. **Fear or Trauma:** Some individuals have been hurt in relationships to the point that they no longer want to be in one. For them, relationships bring nothing good, and they find happiness in being single.
Now, let's explore why some people want to be in a relationship:
1. **Feeling of being loved:** It's true; there's happiness in knowing someone cares for you, worries about you, and takes care of you. Those who have experienced love know the excitement of being with their partners.
2. **Sex:** I think a regular sex life is also a reason why many people like being in a relationship. Sex brings joy to life, and having a partner will bring you lots of joy.
3. **Support:** In a relationship, you have a companion in life, someone to tell you that you can do it and motivate you to face challenges.
There are many reasons people find happiness in relationships, but the bottom line is happiness. So, I won't list all the reasons why people want to be in a relationship.
Yes, not everyone in a relationship is happy, especially if they end up with the wrong person. However, it's not the concept of love and relationships at fault but the choices one makes in life. You may have chosen the wrong person, leading to your unhappiness. You caused your own sorrow, not the idea of love and relationships.
I also know, even if not everyone admits it (because many have confessed to me), that being single can be lonely. It's fun at first, especially when you're young and attractive, and you can have flings. However, as you age and your beauty fades, you might truly feel the loneliness of being single.
I've experienced being single without engaging in flings for an extended period, as well as being single without commitment, just enjoying flings. I've also experienced being in a relationship without love, simply because I didn't want to be single, and I've been in a relationship with someone I liked and who was right for me.
I've also endured heartaches enough to make me hesitant about relationships. That's why I mentioned earlier that I've experienced being single without engaging in flings, truly single.
Based on my observations and the stories I've heard, it's in human nature to want to receive love. That's why I sometimes understand those who are single but have pets they love dearly. They get the love they give from their pets, and they know their pets won't leave them.
For me, it's possible to be happy as a single person, but I can say that being in a relationship is happier, as long as you choose the right partner in life.
Yes, there are problems, occasional arguments, but these are small factors compared to the joy a suitable partner brings to your life.
In the end, I can say that being in a relationship is happy. It gives meaning to your life and gives you a reason to endure the hardships of the world and look forward to a new day.
How about you? Are you single or in a relationship? Where have you found more happiness? There's no wrong answer, so drop your comments in the comment section.